Did I do the right thing?

So, Ch was here this weekend. I purposely set up a playdate at the park for the time she would be home. I just didn't know how I'd handle seeing her and didn't want to lose my cool. So I came home after Carla was already home. I was getting Cadence out of the car and Ch walked by. She didn't speak to me or even Cadence! I was so pissed off. Usually she is eager to see the baby. So her mother told her to stop being rude, that it wouldn't be tolerated. After that, she was pretty normal. Of course, then I was resentful that she acted like nothing had happened. That she hadn't broken our hearts. I was better behaved than I thought I could be. I did pass a couple of comments towards her. But she seemed to ignore them. The rest of the weekend was pretty nice. The inlaws were here working on our rental (they're moving in...did I mention that?). We tried to keep the kids outside because the weather was great. We were going to get the family pics done, but Carla wanted to get the rental completed first. So maybe we'll do that Mother's Day weekend. I took the 3 older kids to the drive in on Sat. night. Carla stayed home with Cadence. So, last night (Sun) I was agonizing over whether to say something to Ch, or rather, leave her a note, making one last plea. So I jotted a quick note late last night and taped it to her spot at the table. It basically said that if she really wanted to give her mom something for mother's day, then tell her she wanted to come home. I said that I didn't think she understood what this had done to her mom. I asked if what she had at her dad's was more important than her mom's feelings. I finished up with "it's not too late". Guilt tactics? Maybe. Is it any worse than what he did? We can't prove it, but we're sure he manipulated or bribed her. I think she is a very confused kid. So I came out this morning before she left on the bus. I was going to remove the note, but she already had picked it up. She didn't say anything. C, the oldest, mouthed to me "she was crying". I have to say, it made me feel good to know that at least she CAN feel and understand how actions can affect others. I told C to ask Ch either to put the note in her room, or throw it away. I didn't want her taking it to her dad's house, and have to listen to him. So the girls came in to say goodbye before leaving on the bus for school. Ch called out a cheerful "bye" and I assumed, as usual, that she had already forgotten anything I had written. A little while later, Carla got up to get ready for work. She came in a few minutes later with a piece of paper, with an almost angry look on her face. I thought she had found my note, and was mad at me for saying anything to Ch. Instead, it was a note from Ch. It was addressed on the outside "To Mom/Kris". The inside said "Mom, I want to come home! XXXXOOXXXXXX hopefully I will be home where I belong." I admitted to Carla that I had written a note to Ch. She asked what I had written and I told her. Of course she wanted to know where it was because she doesn't want Charlie to call and start anything because of it. I think the look on her face was because we have just gone through this hell and now Ch is saying she will come home. Does Ch really mean it? Carla is now going to call the hated therapist and ask her to discuss this with Ch (she goes on Mondays), to make sure this is really what Ch wants. Like Carla said, she can't keep losing her. I told Carla that at any rate, it shows how conflicted Ch is, and how where she is at any given time determines where she wants to be. I'm not sure how Charlie will react if Ch sticks to this decision. Either Ch will see his true colors, or he will guilt the hell out of her. But again, I hope it at least proves to him that she is very confused. I don't know...did I do the right thing? I only stated the truth in my note. I could have said so much more. ::sigh:: I guess whatever happens, I will accept it. I can't keep fighting back all these emotions.